Change is neither resisted nor desired—it is accepted.
Unconditional compassion towards one’s self means being unafraid to take a good long look at your mind and heart without being made squeamish by all your sore and tender spots. Instead of rejecting those feelings and trying to change them, you recognize them for what they are and allow them to heal.
Usually healing means letting go, sacrificing something that you aren’t willing to forgive.
Your lifestyle is a reflection of your state of mind. When you are living from a place of fear and rejection, that life can be very painful. By turning awareness and therefore love upon yourself, you create the opportunity for that healing to occur. When you heal, so does your lifestyle.
If you notice some bad habits or ignorant actions that you have been indulging in, then by all means refrain from them. But don’t try to change your dark and painful feelings. Stay with them, give them compassion, and heal from your deepest fears and confusions.
Enlightenment, which is none other than the obvious recognition of your actual existence without the limit of name and form, can only happen when you are ready to accept who you really are. Accepting what is appearing to you here and now is the place to begin.
Enlightenment does not come as a result of doing something new. It reveals itself as your natural state of existence when you refrain from perpetuating your own ignorance. Change is but a symptom of that awakening, not its cause.